Manners & Misdemeanors

You Can Sit With Us: How to Make Friends with the Truly Rich

We value the connections we create with all kinds of people.
ILLUSTRATOR Sandy Aranas
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The Truly Rich Lady answers your questions. E-mail her at [email protected].

Dear Truly Rich Lady,

Can we be friends even if I am not a Truly Rich Lady myself? What is the etiquette for such friendships? Are you open to befriending non-Truly Rich people? It can be intimidating. What do we need to know?

Sincerely,

Seeking Friendship 

Dear Seeking Friendship, 

I am always happy to create connections with all kinds of people. Just yesterday I found myself immersed in thoughtful conversation with a quirky woman who was loitering around my vegetable garden. She was cracking jokes about the joys of composting and I had a laughter-induced tummy ache. The strange woman was quite a comedian. As I made a mental note to include her on my guest list for my next tea party (she would be great entertainment), she took off her wide-brimmed hat and I realized she was the Batty Old Neighbor from the colonial two blocks away. What a surprise! We are now good friends.

 

The Truly Rich Lady is never a snob

The TRL may turn her nose up at shoddy goods, but she will never turn her nose up at people, not only because they might see what’s inside her nose, but also because she may miss out on a gem. You may be surprised to find out that the TRL will go out of her way to make strangers feel welcome in her presence. She will strike up a conversation and ask you many questions because she genuinely wants to know about you. How to act? Just be natural. Remove the idea from your mind that it is impossible to be friends with her. And forget that she may have gold bars inside her handbag, because that will just mess with your mind. Also try to be interesting (maybe talk about composting).

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The Truly Rich Lady does not bite

I’d never talked to Batty Old Neighbor before because she reminded me of the art teacher who once told me that I only looked good from the left side of my face, but once we had our garden conversation, I realized that she was such good company. I regret all the time I've spent avoiding her because we could've made jokes and compost together sooner. So please do not be afraid. Behind our Resting Rich Faces are perfect veneers for big, warm smiles—not for biting your heads off.

The Truly Rich Lady prefers quality friendships

We never know if the bud of friendship will bloom into something that lasts (or at least flower in full and then fade into a beautiful memory), but please know that TRL is not here for superficial friendships, which I am told the current social media-immersed world is now inclined to. Just as I support genuine articles, I prefer companionship with a TRL or a JRL (Just Rich Lady) or any kind of lady I can trust with my deep dark secrets. My guilty pleasure, for example, is watching Working Girl starring Melanie Griffith (or really any Melanie Griffith movie like Born Yesterday or Milk Money). Anyway, do drop me a line and please keep my secret.

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C.C. Coo
The Truly Rich Lady
C.C. Coo—also known as Town&Country’s Truly Rich Lady—is not a professional seeker of leisure as many people wrongly assume, for she has a real-life occupation: a SHE-EO of Important (Sub)Company of an Empire, for which she works very hard to make sure that the people in her care are not left wanting. She believes that manners are utterly important: “If society is like one of those costume jewelry worn by Jackie O or Diana, it would be the glue that keeps the veneer of a most beautiful thing from falling apart,” she says.
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