How to Know When to Address Someone as 'Tita', According to the Truly Rich Lady
Riddle me this: What do you call a Truly Rich Lady whom you have just met and maybe, because of your blurry vision, appears older than you? Do you call her the T word? A
I don’t know how it started when everyone started calling a woman of a certain age a “
For women, Truly Rich or not, the
Maybe she just hadn't had a good night’s sleep. Or maybe her
There are many possible reasons for their maybe older look, but one must never presume another woman’s age or forcibly emphasize her age even if she is of that age by calling her the T word.
Now, you ask: “But,
First, how dare you call me, the young Si-si Coo, Tita Si-si or Ti-Si for short! I am not your mother or father’s sister. We haven’t even met!
Second, there is some sort of mathematical rule that determines when it is okay or not okay to call someone
I say in confusion, “Truly Rich BFF, you know I only got an Exceeds Expectations in math class, right? I don’t understand what you said. Should I call you a
Side note: I can call her a
Anyway, this is what she means: You must also consider the hierarchy. In the previous equation, all three women are
It is my Truly Rich BFF, who finds herself a rung lower on the ladder, who can call her real
But forget all of that because it is just too much work for my tastes. Let us return to the true, which is manners. The proper way to address an adult woman is Miss Last Name (technically, it should be Ms. with the period but you are not writing to her when you are face to face), or Mrs. Last Name but only if you are very sure that she is indeed a missus (she might be the mistress!), or just First Name but only if you are very sure that she is a totally Modern Millie and therefore cool with the idea of being called by her first name, Khate.
Now you ask: “But
Ay-ya-yay! I am not a ma-dam (emphasis on the “dam,” “damn,” or “dumb” as in “Hello, ma-dum”)! This is sycophantic and sounds, frankly, gross. Stop.
Listen, if all else fails, ask the friend who introduced you to the well-preserved woman what she likes to be called. Would it be
And maybe your friend will say, “Oh, her name is really Tita, so you can call her Tita Tita.” Case closed.