T&C Etiquette: How to Properly Write a Wedding Invitation
Stationery and etiquette expert Heather Wiese-Alexander (and owner of uber chic stationery line Bell'INVITO shares the top 5 etiquette tips for wedding invitations:
1. Be polite and concise in every aspect of your invitation, from inside the envelope out to the mailing address.
- Nothing is more frustrating to a guest than an unclear invitation. Guests want to know who is hosting, what the event is, when and where to show up, and most commonly, who exactly is invited. On the same note, don't make the blunder of trying to over-emphasize any one of these points. In the purest sense, don't indicate any expectation or preference as to how a guest might be required to act, contribute or dress (in most cases). Keep in mind that your save-the-date is an invitation as well, just an abbreviated one.
2. Match your wording style to your design style, and your design style to your wedding's formality and feel.
- Your invitation tells people about your event exactly the way your personal style tells people about you. Like any first impression, there is more to be revealed later, but what is present and what is absent definitely relay information. Keep in mind that traditional rules of etiquette aren't necessary for every style of
weddinginvitation. If your layout is modern, you have room for exercising a bit of whimsy in the wording without appearing to have made etiquette mistakes. However, if your design is traditional and formal, taking liberties in your wording will come across as naive to those in-the-know.
3. Know the don't list.
- There are many aspects of the wedding event worth fussing over. Keep your attention there. The best way to create a memorable event you will be proud of for ages to come is to know what is important and what is not. If you know exactly what you should avoid on your wedding invitations, you have a pretty good idea of where to channel your energy for the rest of the planning journey and for the big day!
4. Be tasteful when including websites, hashtags and dress codes.
- There are appropriate places to include this information for guests, but the ceremony card is not it. While you don't need a separate card for each item, you do need at least one enclosure containing this information, but only if you wish to include it. One information card with accommodations, website information, arguably–tasteful mentions of attire in certain cases, and even a number or email where guests can respond (gasp! no, really, it's true) are perfectly fine. Your actual ceremony invitation,
howevershould never know you slipped this in.
5. When including a reply set, leave room for the response!
- For starters, those of you who have moved on from the "m" line, I applaud you. Those of you who are daring and ingenious enough to forgo the reply set altogether have a special place in my heart. But it is practical these days to prompt a response from most guests. When you do, leave room for a guest to write a proper response. At least the ones who know to do it will know that you know as much. Besides, the short sentiments of excitement and congratulations are a lovely keepsake.
For more on bell'INVITO, check out Heather's website HERE.
This story originally appeared on Townandcountrymag.com.
* Minor edits have been made by the Townandcountry.ph editors.