How to Remember Anyone's Name
Okay, here we go. Deep breath. It's game time. You're dressed in your finest duds—fresh from the dry cleaner. Smells like victory, which is perfect because you're in it to win it tonight.
It's the big company cocktail party and you're the man of the hour. Being CEO has its perks, but nothing beats mucking it up with your employees. There's just one problem—one major
"Would you like to check your jacket, sir?"
"Why yes, my good man," you respond, thinking this is a perfect opportunity to give your name game a quick spin. "And what's your name?"
"I hear a little accent there, John. Where you from?"
"John from Jersey. Great to meet you. Thanks for your help."
REPEAT THE NAME AND MAKE AN ASSOCIATION
John from Jersey handles the jackets. Easy as that. All you need to do is focus in, listen intently to the name, repeat it, glean some information about the person, and make an association
Okay, now let's see, who's next? Oh, you
"Hi, I'm Bob," you open.
"Oh, hello sir. I'm --------."
"We seem to be on the same schedule every morning and I just thought I'd introduce myself."
"Well thank you. Really nice to meet you, Bob."
"You, too, um…."
Oh no, his name is gone. You weren't focusing. Where do you go from here? Enter: the e-mail trick.
ASK FOR AN E-MAIL ADDRESS
"You seem like an eager young guy. We should grab coffee
"Oh, that would be great. My e-mail is [email protected]"
"Pleasure to meet you,
The e-mail trick worked like a charm.
CONSIDER A RHYMING SCHEME
Now you need to deposit Barry Waters into your memory bank for good. Let's think of a solid rhyming association for his name. Barry, Larry, Carry, Sharry, Darry, Marry. Wait, that's it: marry. In those suits, Barry is ready to marry. He comes to the elevator every day like it's an alter. Barry ready to marry. Done and done.
Later that evening at the company event, a rotund guy from the legal department intervenes before you're able to make your way to the bar. "What'll it be Bob?" he asks. "I'll have a bourbon. Thanks..." you say, quite obviously blanking on his name.
"The name's Bernie."
USE PHYSICAL ASSOCIATIONS
Bernie is about 6'2", portly and slightly red-faced. He licks his lips before each sip. How are you going to remember this guy? Let's go with a physical association. The licking of the lips reminds you of a dog. A Saint Bernard even. Perfect! Bernie is a dog, a Saint Bernard. Now let's review: John from Jersey; Barry ready to marry; Bernie the Bernard."
It's the voice of the sweet little secretary whose name you never bothered to learn. Now you're way past the point of asking for it. Time to employ the Wingman Strategy.
INTRODUCE THEM TO SOMEONE ELSE
"Hello!" you exclaim. "Do you know Bernie?"
"Oh, no, I don't.
Of course! Denise. Denise works the desk. Can't beat that association. Now, say it out loud. "Yes, Bernie, you've probably seen Denise. She works the front desk.
Let them talk amongst themselves, nod and smile, and get in another mental name review. John from Jersey has my jacket; Barry is ready to marry; Bernie is a
This story originally appeared on Townandcountrymag.com.
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