The Good, The Bad, and the Downright Dirty: When Rich People Air Their Grievances on Social Media
Through my very real law degree—gleaned from my teachers, Al Pacino in the movie Scent of a Woman, the fashionably dressed Christine Baranski in the small screen’s The Good Wife and now The Good Fight, and Miranda Hobbes in the final episode of Sex and the City (the one where she wrote pros and cons of getting back
This TRL is a unique creature: a woman of old wealth and new wealth (the latter she built with her own savvy); a popular figure as an actress, TV host, and now a social media star; a lady whose gilded name evokes power. She straddles the lines of taste and charm, blurting out whatever it is that forms in her mind—which just ruffles the steel feathers of the Truly Rich Set, but excites those in the regular world.
I don’t think, at this point, she gives a hoot about what either side thinks, but nevertheless, there are social rules that can not be undone simply because your heart is bleeding.
Members of the Truly Rich Jury, what do you think of her conduct? Was she right to wear her heart on her sleeve and speak her truth? Or was she totally at fault for her very public, balls-to-the-wall tirade?
Argument No. 1: Yes, she can say whatever she wants because her heart can not take it anymore!
Truly Rich Darling continues to be hurt by her deadbeat ex-husband and, to add insult to injury, has been betrayed by an ungrateful ex-friend. Can you imagine?
He remains an unworthy person who does not visit and, more
Why I, Atty. Coo, would also be blinded by white-hot rage if that happened to me. I would tell my assistant to take down this note right away: “Two orders of Megan Markle’s chicken adobo, one Kobe beef sandwich, and a grazing table for six.” And that’s just for me and my feelings.
As a human with a working heart, it is natural to feel agony and, of course, let this pain out. You can only suffer the slings and arrows of life for so long. And who among us here has not spoken or acted out because of anger? Let those without sin cast the first stone.
Well, I’m waiting.
Argument No. 2: Yes, it is only right that she broadcast her thoughts over social media.
As a Truly Rich Darling, it is more than natural, too, to unload this heavy load on her 3.5 million follower-friends on Instagram. I mean, it would be bothersome to repeat her innermost feelings 3.5 million times. It is more efficient to do one lengthy train-of-thought post about this heinous betrayal through the public forum of social media.
Listen, if she were a regular person, this would be like talking to her five girlfriends about her hurt heart. Except she is not a regular person. She is a special person with millions of friends.
Argument No 3: Yes, it is very much okay to include a plug about your soap when telling the truth!
Also, this is her job and, I have been told, her unique charm, the ability to sell you something but not make you feel bad about it.
Argument No. 4: No, dear, you shouldn’t have done that.
If this were a Jane Austen novel, she would be a Marianne and the Truly Rich World would be Elinor. And we all know what happened to Marianne, right? After surrendering to her feelings yet again, reciting a poem while crying in the rain (and gazing toward her Willoughby’s estate), she, as excellently portrayed in the 1995 film adaptation, caught an illness that almost took her life!
Meanwhile, Elinor, who is also trapped in her own love conundrum, remains properly contained. Like a Truly Rich Lady, she restrains her emotions. She never speaks about her pain, not even to her sister, the passion-filled Marianne.
Our Darling is like Marianne, who is prone to an excess of feelings and an intensity of emotion. To reveal your heart can be a dangerous and even a shameful affair. In a world where appearances can matter, you should never lose face or let go of grace, because people will find a way to use it against you.
Argument No. 5: Oh no, no, no. She should just move on.
Matters of the heart are difficult to weigh in on. Any sensible TRL would advise Darling or anyone else in her situation to just move on. She would not be the first and the last woman to break up with an ex and have this
The thing with passionate outbursts is that feelings subside. The heart calms down and the mind or, maybe more appropriately, the spirit takes over. Later on, Darling has seen the error of her ways and made amends to the people she named (dragged?) into her very personal issue. She is working on her heart: “I also know I have personal demons I need to
Owning up to your faults and asking for forgiveness are marks of a Truly Rich Lady. We wish her all the best.